1) Nelson accused Josie of treating him badly after taking an un-agreed-upon fishing trip (beginning of their marriage)
2) Nelson passed by the opportunity to work day shifts when he worked in Detroit
3) Nelson called Josie his fishing buddy for years... then once he called for his fishing buddy to meet him at the boat, and his Dad went out fishing with him. Josie was confused, to say the least. How many men call their wives by the same nicknames as they call their fathers?
4) Nelson promised for the preceeding week, and all weekend long, that their fishing trip was going to be a romantic weekend for the couple. Josie went trail-running while she waited for him. She was lonesome and called her friend Jim, in California. She was grieving for the love she thought she had but did not, and she cried out in the woods. At the end of the weekend, Nel said the only reason it wasn't a romantic weekend was because Jos wouldn't go out fishing at 5 AM with THEM (meaning Nel and his dad).
5) The Lori/IT thing.
6) Nel stayed calm whenever Jos would fuck up their checking account. She became apathetic because she simply didn't care about money -- Nelson was so stinking obsessive/compulsive about it. One minute working his ass off, and the next, spending his ass off. Never saving, it made Josie really angry that it was up to her to be responsible. Josie still can't keep a dime in her bank account, and she still has a difficult time balancing her check book. Mostly still out of apathy.
7) Josie's friendships with men... coworkers mostly... and how they were the positive male role models that she needed because Nelson refused to be there for her when she needed him. He would say "you can take care of yourself" and that hurt her.
8) Dr. Jekyll's assessment that Nelson's character would never change... his ambivalence is something that we did not want to, nor could we change.
9) Josie is sorry for her part in all of this. She feels guilty that her marriage did not last the way that everyone urged her to make it so. She sometimes hurt Nelson physically, sometimes emotionally, as she lashed out at him for the pain and sometimes horror of their marriage.
10) Josie's working with the "big boys" and how it made it difficult for her to open up at home and soften her heart and mind to the dedicated committment that she had to honour there.
11) Nelson's threats of suicide were merely an attempt to gain control of an "out of control" marital situation.